This is a photo I snapped when I was cleaning the house a weeks ago. A bandeau top, dangly earrings and a long flowing skirt. An amused smirk. I really was enjoying myself! When I was getting dressed that morning I was planning to clean so I built in some satisfaction. How did I want to feel like I was getting the work done? Did I want to feel resentful that I was doing this instead of something fun? Or could this be fun, too? Did I want to feel like a house frau or like myself as I got some work done before moving on to the next thing? Being in my own skin is always the best path to satisfaction. I wanted to feel energetic and content so I assembled some of my favorite things and put them on. I do this every day.
There’s no reason to change into someone else regardless of what I’m doing.
And so I thought about this space here. A domain name is so important as it clearly imparts your purpose. When I established this site I thought seriously about what I was offering and who I was. Once I settled on January’s Girl I felt like I had stepped into the role I was presenting. It embodied the hopeful anticipation, the plan of action, the tabla rasa of a fresh start, which is how I see my entrance into the physical world and what I was offering the online world. It solidified so much for me personally and allowed me to find a platform from which I could share all that I had cultivated through my experience. I liked it because I felt like a public face; my private self could stay hidden mostly.
Until I cracked open. So quickly my heart came pouring out in very real and honest ways. The words can’t be tucked away as they are begging to be posted. Even when I wonder why I’m able to share so willing such depth of my experience, it’s just there. I’m just open. Sometimes I’m hesitant, though, out of fear for being seen as too emotional or thinking too much. I’m afraid of being seen– not new for me. And yet I never feel more understood than when someone really sees me. Recently a friend of mine made a comment about how deeply I feel and I felt a huge release as that validated my true nature. Yes, I do feel very deeply and yes, I think very deeply, and yes, I love rich conversations. I’ve realized how much I was still hiding behind a brand here as a buffer to that depth and I want to step out and claim the space. To be bold in owning what I say and being proud of myself for who I am.
One of my mantras is Be You in all that You Do.
and it applies here, too. No apologies.
I’m not a brand. I’m not someone’s hope. I’m not a plan. I’m not a purpose. I’m an impassioned person who wants to share herself in ways that will honor her talents and desires while lending a helping hand. It’s who I’ve always been, even as I’ve evolved from a scared, shy little girl to a confident, graceful adult. There’s no need to craft a persona or catchy name when I’m being my best true self. When I married I “kept my name” because I wasn’t becoming someone else; I was still me. Who I am is all I ever need to be so quietly over the weekend my domain name changed to my name.* While my writing here has always been real, it feels so much more open for the site itself to be under my own name. I already feel better and more ready to make the offers that are coming in the new year.**
From cleaning the house to writing on my blog I’m expressing the essence of my soul. I channel it in the way I dress, in the meals I prepare (or not), in the way I arrange my furniture, in the travel I do, in the connections I make, in the photos I take, in all that I do. I’m bigger than an idea or a niche and as I go forward here it’s important for me to feel unlimited. The clearest way to create a space is this: I’m Flo Gascon. Let’s get to know each other.
Express your true self. Ask:
How do I want to be known? You get to decide how to transform your experience into relationship. The center of gravity is you.
How can I free that expression? The ways you choose to feel like yourself are your keys to confidence. Work it.
How can I ground myself in deep understanding? Sink into your own true self and own it. It’s why you’re here and no one can do it like you do.
Living without apology is an evolution. Have some trust that you are enough. Step out from behind the mystery and shine.
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